Some friendships come into your life for a season.
When I lived in Illinois, I attended one of the best churches I had ever been to. I was involved with many ministries and volunteered any chance I could get. Through the church, I met many amazing women who filled me up, mentored me, and befriended me during a time when I was very much alone. My first duty assignment was two states away from my family and 735 miles away from my boyfriend. These ladies came over for dinner often, and we would laugh, cry, and pray about any and everything. I learned so much from these women and truly believe they helped shape me into the wife and mother I am today.
After 2.5 years, I moved out of the country to finally join my hubby. Slowly, but surely, those friendships ceased to exist. Nothing bad happened. In fact, a lot of great things happened, but God brought these ladies into my life for a season only. In retrospect, those friendships served a purpose. The purpose was to help me on my journey of developing my faith, of discovering who I was in Christ. I still follow them on social media and think of them often.
I look back at most of those friendships and am so thankful for everything I learned. Those ladies poured into me and allowed me to grow more than I ever thought was possible. I knew that most of those relationships would not survive a PCS, but I was okay with that. I knew that God had a purpose for each and every one of those ladies.
Some friendships come into your life for a lifetime.
When we are fortunate, we sometimes make a friend or two that will withstand a lifetime.
A friend who overlooks your brokenness and admires the beauty inside you.
A friend who is open and honest…. who tells you when you’re wrong in a loving manner.
God brings certain people into our life to stay for a lifetime.
In this arena, I have been blessed.
These friendships are the ones that you can go a while without talking, but when you catch up, it is like nothing has changed. These are also the friendships that you will go out of your way to spend time with them even though you only have a few days to spend back home. Sometimes, these are the people that you call in the middle of the night, asking for prayers because you feel so broken or so tempted that you don’t have the strength fight the temptation alone. And when you are extremely blessed, these are the friendships that you pour your deepest secrets or embarrassments, because you can trust them to pray for you and hold you accountable.
I reflect on all the people in my life, those that lasted a long season, or a short reason, and those who are currently still in my life, and I am in awe. Through military moves across states or across countries, through pregnancies and miscarriages, through heartbreak and marriages, these friendships have all shaped me in one way or another.
Had I disregarded any of them because I knew they weren’t meant to last a lifetime, I would have missed out on so many blessings.